Why, in this day and age, are many mothers still so intent on having their daughters “marry into money”? How is it that such young girls already have a keen awareness of “men with money” and have developed close associations between wealth and happiness?
Or is this “marrying for love” vs. “marrying for money” dichotomy — the idea that we must make a choice between (“irrational,” passionate) love and (rational) materialism — oversimplified?
To answer your question professor, I believe many women are “gold-diggers’ because it delves deeper than the material. Although, sickening and “pathetic”, I strongly believe, this notion of obtaining wealth in whatever means possible, is an idea ingrained in us, as a people, in this society and obtaining wealth through marriage is no different.
Many mothers teach their daughters to marry a rich man, a wealthy man who could take “care” of them. And many mothers now say: “It’s just as easy to fall in love with a rich man than an average one,” but where did this idea come from?
I believe it is derived from the beginning of society. According to Marx, the world is divided; the bourgeoisie and the proletariat; the wealthy and the poor. Marx’s concept of the poor taking over the wealth or overpowering them, was not realistic because we live in a capitalistic country, and even communist countries have a divide among the rich and the poor. No country has been successful, in achieving pure communism. In this sense, wealth and money will always be an issue. Obtaining wealth will always be a goal for many and for women it is even a bigger issue.
Men and women were and are treated differently. In this day and age, it is still difficult to achieve pure equality among our brethren and sisters, especially in the career field. Women have seen this happen and many experienced this first-hand. And this is when “gold-diggers” appeared.
Gold-diggers I believe are a hybrid of ambitious and patriarchal women. I believe they think that because we live in a male-dominated society, one should “adapt” to it, obtaining wealth through marriage and relationships. And although, their way of thinking is limited it can also be seen as “realistic” because it shows the apparent divide among men and women.