Stigma of sexual orientation Blog #5

Stigma is define by Goffman as an attribute that discredits someone depending on the circumstances. Before it used to be a stigma to be gay, nowadays it is more acceptable depending on the place. So being gay is not a stigma in most of America and England. There is still a stigma for people to affiliate to the label of bi-sexual. It is more acceptable to be gay or lesbian because it is perceive as being define. In the other hand bi-sexuals are perceive as confused, as people who do not know what they want. There is the stigma, a bi-sexual is someone who is confused and therefore they can’t be trusted. This stigma might change depending on the place, and the community. If you are in a bi-sexual community there would be no stigma about it, but usually within a group of lesbians there would be the stigma that they just can’t make their minds and decide what they want. In the straight community being bi-sexual also depends on gender. For females it seems more acceptable, but when it comes to males there have being papers publish questioning if it is even real or possible for males to be bi-sexual. Therefore there is more of a stigma when it comes to bi-sexual males than for females.

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12 responses to “Stigma of sexual orientation Blog #5

  1. I never thought that being bisexual can be more of a stigma than fully gay good point you made there. I have heard of gay people say they actually have no respect for bisexuals because as you said they are just confused. Though I still believe being gay is more of a stigma. A lot of bisexuals grow out of it and it can be just a faze for some regardless, at some point both being gay or bisexual wasn’t the norm and a lot of people still have a hard time accepting but because of all the strict discrimination laws if you go against it there is more of a negative effect and backlash so you just accept. It’s really sad that we stigmatize certain people because of their sexual preferences that shouldn’t define a person and who they are I believe.

  2. Incisive, historically aware analysis of the changing nature of sexual orientation and stigma

  3. mockingbird26

    I don’t believe that being bisexual is more stigmatized that being gay, I personally thing that both conditions are equality stigmatized because one is as you said pointed, bring a lot of confusion about his/her sexual orientation and the other one for many people would be considered as something abnormal.

  4. it’s interesting how you bring up the fact that there is a different standard of stigma depending on the gender of an individual. Why is that males receive more backlash if they declare bisexuality compared to females? I believe an answer to this is because of the sexual norms displayed against females which make it more “understood” or less stigmatized if a female is bisexual. In most fashion ads, men aren’t sexualized to the same degree and thus it is stigmatized based on the fact that males in our society are not normally portrayed in a sexualized light.

  5. I find it really interesting how you said you think it is more acceptable for a girl to be bi sexual. Obviously you’re right it all depends on where you are and the environment around you but that being said i think boys are more accepted of being bi sexual. A boy and a girl is what you call the ordinary thing but i think in todays world what with social media and pop culture, a gay couple is becoming pretty common i mean look at shows like modern family and nashville. So whether a guy is with a girl or another guy i don’t think people make a big deal about it anymore. On the other hand, i think a girl calling herself bi sexual has so much more strings attached. I guess a guy wouldn’t mind too much seeing a girl with a guy and girl but when girls tend to be so much more judgmental when they see a bisexual girl. For one thing, she is getting attention from both sides of the field so its easy to label her a “slut” or “whore”. Also people always say girls are irrational so its so much easier to tell a girl “You don’t know what you want” or “You just experimenting” rather than believing she is bi sexual. At the ned of the day, i really do think it depends on where you live for example in the city, concept of bisexuality is accepted on a greater scale overall than any little town or suburb. Finally, i liked your blogpost, it just made me realize that as long as there are people in this world, stigmas are going to exists and there s really nothing we can do about because dis identifiers like clothes or accessories can only take us so far.

  6. To be completely honest, I hate how people are forced to pigeonhole themselves in order to make sense to other people. Why should my sexuality be any of your business in the first place? You shouldn’t have to owe someone an explanation.
    If you like guys? Good for you.
    You like girls? Awesome.
    You like both? Fantastic.
    You’re a narcissist? Great, I’ll send you a mirror.

    It’s like, if you don’t fit into someone’s category of “Gay” or “Straight”, they get frustrated. We, as a species of homo sapiens, are constantly trying to categorize and classify people that are different from us, and not necessarily to better understand them, but to make our own selves feel comfortable about things we don’t understand.

  7. Im so happy you wrote about this. The topic of bisexuality and stigma is something that is not usually heard about, but it is 100% there. I’ve heard people say “bi-sexuality does not exist! you are either gay or straight.” It really bothers me when I hear this. its like saying “your not bi-racial, your ether one or the other…choose!” Also why does it matter who we choose to love. Society and gender rules tell us that men are suppose to love women and vice versa. Now we have accepted men loving men and women loving women, but how come people cant accept those who love both. Also who are we to judge? its not our lives, so why must we define others?

  8. Its interesting how the dynamics of sexuality has change years age the was a stigma attached to discussing sex so openly or even worst discussing different sexual orientation. But just like race or gender Inequality their is so much room for improvement.

  9. I agree that the stigma attached to being gay has seemed to diminish slowly over time, even if it is not entirely gone. I had never considered the stigma attached to being bi-sexual and how stigmas may vary based on gender. Even within the straight community, stigmas vary between genders. A female who has been with various partners is viewed as a “slut”. Yet it is considered to be an achievement to have had many partners as a male. Overall I agree with many of the comments above on the fact that as an species we should mind our own business and allow others to be who they want to be as well as have the partners they wish to have, judgement and stigma free.

  10. Oh, very interesting connection. I truly believe that the stigma that comes with “sexual orientation” is based on a truly distorted notion of what sexuality/sexual orientation actually is.

    What if we challenge our current understanding of sexuality/sexual orientation as being “right or left” and think about it as a spectrum, where our attraction to PEOPLE is based on several different factors including our preferences for romance, sexual fetishes, spiritual connection, intelligence, etc. Taking this into account will bring us to explore the idea of asexuality, demi sexuality, pan sexuality, heteroflexible, etc. Besides it’s so much more exciting to think about sexuality/sexual orientation on a spectrum!

    Here are a few links if you may be interested in starting to research the topic about the spectrum sexuality paradigm: http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Klein_Sexual_Orientation_Grid
    http://asexualeducation.tumblr.com/attraction

    • I think that with this spectrum we can gain a better appreciation for the other factors, out side of sex, that come into play when persuing healthy romantic relationships with other people.

  11. I disagree with your concept of gay no longer being a stigma. Even though it is being accepted more, it is still a stigma. It can also be a discreditable and a discredited stigma. People can know about you being gay and if you decide you don’t want people to know, that can be done, as well. I also disagree on your idea of being bi-sexual. It’s not that a person doesn’t know what they want, they just prefer both. They can know they are attracted to females and they can know they are attracted to males. They necessarily don’t need to be confused.

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